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Talking to Your Doctor About Your Mental Health

Talking about mental illness can be hard. There is a stigma that surrounds mental health and mental illness. It can prevent people from getting the support and help they need. But mental illness is a common problem. In fact, about 1 in 5 people will experience some sort of mental illness in their lifetime. So, don’t be afraid to reach out for help. Your family doctor is a good place to start. For some people, the thought of talking to their doctor about their mental health is scary. But getting treatment for mental illness is important. It rarely goes away on its own. Left untreated, it can get worse, lead to other health problems, or last for a long time. Deciding to talk to your doctor about your mental health is the first step on your journey to feeling better. Do I need to see a doctor? Every mental illness has its own list of symptoms. But there are common ones that could be a red flag that something is wrong. These include:

  • Loss of appetite.

  • Thinking negative thoughts about yourself.

  • Frequently feeling anxious or worrying a lot.

  • Irritability or moodiness.

  • Having trouble concentrating.

  • Not enjoying life as much as you used to.

  • Finding day-to-day life difficult (getting out of bed, going to work, etc.).

  • Trouble sleeping or sleeping too much.

  • Seeing or hearing things that aren’t there.

If you have noticed any of these changes over the last few weeks or months, you should consider making an appointment with your family doctor. What will my doctor do for me? You might not feel comfortable talking to your doctor about any mental or emotional problems you are having. But your doctor can help you. He or she can:

  • Ask you questions about your thoughts and feelings that might help you better understand what you are going through.

  • Give you reassurance that you aren’t “crazy” but have a medical problem.

  • Tell you what kinds of support are available, such as counseling.

  • Offer you medicine, if it’s appropriate.

  • Recommend lifestyle changes that can help improve your mental health, such as exercise.

  • Refer you to a specialist, if they think that would be more helpful.

  • See you at follow-up appointments to monitor how you are doing and how you are responding to treatment.

Path to improved health Sometimes it can be hard to start a conversation with your doctor about your mental health. Here are some tips that can help you before, during, and after your appointment. Before your appointment:

  1. Set reasonable goals for the appointment. Diagnosing and treating mental illness takes time. If you set a goal of having your symptoms go away immediately, you will likely be disappointed. Instead, set a few reasonable goals. These could include explaining your symptoms to your doctor, learning a possible diagnosis, and coming up with a treatment plan.

  2. Write down important information. Take some time before your appointment to write down what you’d like to talk about. This will help you make sure you don’t forget anything when you’re in the doctor’s office. Some things you can write down include:

  • Your symptoms. These could be physical, mental, emotional, or behavioral changes that you’ve noticed in your life.

  • How your mood affects your everyday life.

  • Key personal information, such as traumatic events in your past, or current stressful situations you are facing.

  • Your medical information, such as other physical or mental conditions you currently have. Also write down all medicines you are taking, including over-the-counter medicine and herbal supplements.

  • Questions you want to ask your doctor.

You can use this Start the Conversation Checklist as a starting point. Just print it off, fill it out before your appointment, and take it with you. You can give it to your doctor to read or use it as a reference when you’re talking about your symptoms. During your appointment:

  1. State your concerns plainly. It’s important to tell your doctor all of your symptoms. But before you get into that, tell him or her what you think may be wrong. Use clear statements such as “I think I may be depressed” or “I am having trouble with anxiety.” This will help guide them and let them know what direction to go in.

  2. Be as open and honest with your doctor as possible. He or she can’t help you if they don’t know everything that is going on. It can be hard to open up about your feelings, especially with someone you don’t know very well. But your doctor is trained to deal with sensitive issues. They will be supportive and professional, and you won’t tell them anything they haven’t heard before.

  3. Refer to your notes. It’s common to forget half of what you were going to say once you get in the doctor’s office. That’s why it’s important to write things down beforehand. If you use the notes you’ve prepared ahead of time, you won’t have to worry about forgetting important details.

  4. Understand the diagnosis process. There is no simple blood test or scan that can tell you if you have depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, or another mental illness. Sometimes it can be challenging for your doctor to be able to name the specific condition you have. Plus, you may have a combination of conditions that are causing your symptoms. For example, depression and anxiety often occur together. Bipolar disorder shares some symptoms with depression. And depressive illnesses often occur with physical conditions such as heart disease, diabetes, or cancer. Your doctor may ask you questions that seem unrelated to mental illness. This is all in an effort to make sure they get the diagnosis right.

  5. Bring someone with you. If you need support, invite a friend or family member to go to your appointment with you. They can help you understand and remember what the doctor tells you. They also may be able to tell the doctor about the changes they’ve noticed in you.

After your appointment

  1. Follow through with treatment. After you’ve shared your concerns and your doctor has given his or her diagnosis, together you will come up with a treatment plan. This may include talk therapy, medicine, lifestyle changes, or a referral to a specialist. It is your job to follow through with the treatment. Schedule appointments with a specialist or a therapist. Get your prescription filled and take the medicine as directed. Give the lifestyle changes a try, even if you don’t feel like it.

  2. Follow up with your doctor. Your doctor will want to see you again in a few weeks to see if the treatment is working. It is important that you schedule a follow-up visit and go to the appointment, whether you are feeling better or not. If you aren’t feeling better, your doctor may have other ideas on ways to treat you. This could include changing your medicine, adding another medicine, or recommending other courses of action.

  3. Be patient. It is important that you are patient with yourself and with your doctor through this process. You might have to try different medicines or a combination of medicines. You might need talk therapy and a mix of self-care strategies. It can take time to find the right treatment plan for you. Just don’t give up. You will feel better as long as you keep trying to find a solution.

Things to consider Having trouble with your mental health can affect you in many ways. It can make everything seem more difficult, and you might have trouble trying to get help. It can also affect your memory and concentration. That can make it more difficult to talk to your doctor and remember what he or she said. That’s why it’s important for you to write things down before you go into your appointment. It may also be a good idea to write down what your doctor says during the appointment, so you don’t forget it later. Or bring a friend or family member to the appointment with you. You might have to take steps that you normally wouldn’t. You might have to ask other people to help you get the help you need. That is okay. The most important thing is that you get help. Questions to ask your doctor

  • What type of mental health problem might I have?

  • Why can’t I get over this problem on my own?

  • How do you treat this type of problem?

  • Will counseling or psychotherapy help?

  • Are there medicines that could help?

  • How long will treatment take?

  • What can I do at home to help myself?

  • Do you have any brochures or other printed material on my condition that I can have?



U.S. Department of Health and Human Services: Talk with Your Doctor about Depression

Last Updated: July 29, 2020 This article was contributed by editorial staff. Categories: Emotional Well-Being, Mental Health, Prevention and Wellness Tags: maintain mental health, mental health

Copyright © American Academy of Family Physicians This information provides a general overview and may not apply to everyone. Talk to your family doctor to find out if this information applies to you and to get more information on this subject.

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